Unprotected Sex Should Never Be A Fantasy For Porn Stars To Peform In Real Life

This is a subject that I can't shake. It's something that's been driving me crazy.

Two weeks ago, a wrote an article for MUSED Magazine about a law that was passed in California that legally requires porn stars to wear condoms if they're going to be acting in adult films. You know what that means? It means that you are longer going to see porn stars perform unprotected sex on film in the state of California.

From the way it sounds, it appears to be a good thing. HIV/AIDS is still a big topic when it comes to sex. There are discoveries of new STDS like HPV for example, which an individual could get from having oral sex. The 21st century is becoming a time when we really have to take care of ourselves. As the world is evolving, we have to be prepared for these new things that are putting our well beings to the challenge. That's why I support this law in California.

There are those that obviously don't agree with me. Some production companies that make adult films are now planning on leaving the country in order to make the unprotected sex films they want to make. They feel the monthly checkups for HIV every 30 days is good enough for them.

I went over to MUSED Magazine's Twitter account when the creator asked readers the question before he publicly posted the article. The responses were split in half. The people that responded negatively said that the law shouldn't have been made. This law shouldn't be legal because it ruins their fantasy. Just because they don't want to have sex with the porn stars in the real life doesn't mean that they don't want to watch actual unprotected sex on film.

After reading the negative responses to the bill, I felt sad and disgusted. The fact that they care less about the porn star's health and more about fulfilling their sexual needs is repugnant.

I personally have no problem with the porn industry. I truthfully watch porn at least once a week. Some of my friends are friends with people who does porn. It's a part of our world that is difficult to separate. I don't watch films that has the actors having unprotected sex. I don't care if it's a fantasy. At the end of the day, these are real life people who are putting themselves at risk. It's ridiculous for the actors to risk their lives just to film something that the majority of people don't watch completely.

Let's be real everyone. When was the last time you heard that someone ejaculated after watching all the videos in one DVD?

I care about porn stars and their health. So I don't care if it's a fantasy of yours. Unprotected sex should never a fantasy for porn stars to perform in real life.

Are Naked Pictures Still A Turn On?

The one thing that I still find unusual is my relationship with older people. I've made friends with a lot of older people, even though they know I don't want to be in a relationship with them. I'm the type of person that wants to grow with someone and spend a long time with them. It's somewhat of a turnoff for me when I see a 50 year old male trying to make a pass at me. But still, I maintain my friendship with them.

One day, I ran into another one of my older friends. His name is Troy. I was walking around the city, looking for a good story to write about. He was a hosting a Mardi Gras event that was being held at the Ritz Carlton hotel. He still has a crush on me, but he doesn't go ahead with it. He understands that we are better off as friends.

During our conversation, he revealed to me that he is hooking up with this 30 year old male. He admits to going through multiple sexual adventures with him. He lived out every fantasy in his head because of his buddy. Then all of a sudden, he took out his cell phone and showed me a naked picture of this man.

"Isn't he gorgeous?" he asked me.

Due to my observant self, I looked down and saw that Troy was getting very excited just by looking at a naked picture of this man. However, I looked at the picture and was instantly turned off. Here was this fine African American male with his manhood in full display, but I wasn't excited. I was actually more turned on by Troy than the picture.

I looked up and said to Troy "Is it a video?"

For me, I am more turned on by watching a video and completely turned off by a picture. After seeing all these stars with these leaked pictures coming at least once a month, it becomes somewhat tiring to see just a naked picture. I sometimes want more. Looking at a body part frozen in time doesn't work for me anymore.

After this realization about myself, I can't help but wonder. Are naked pictures still a turn on?

Conversations With Your Penis

When it comes to sex, the one thing that men appears to not be incredibly vocal about is their secret conversations with their partner downstairs. I'm talking about the partner deep inside their pants. I'm talking about the one thing that they are self confident about on a daily basis. I don't need to tell you what it is. The title says it all.

For women, it's very obvious that they talk about their breasts numerous times. Whether it's talking to them in the mirror or having a conversation with their friends, a conversation regarding their breasts is always going to come up. That's why the majority of us are prepared for things like that to happen. If you're an only child, your conversations with your breasts is like talking to real life sisters.

Well what about men? Do we have those same type of conversations? Absolutely.

Even though it's not publicly displayed as it is with women, men do have independent conversations with their penis. Men, have there ever came a time in your life when you're alone in the bathroom completely nude, and you just happened to be talking to your partner downstairs? Have you ever had that short moment of cockiness with your partner?

I for one will admit that I did something related to it. I remember standing in the bathroom completely naked. The hot water from inside the tub heated me up so much, I was erect for a full half hour. Even when I was out of the tub, it was still fully excited.

"Oh really," I said while looking down at it. "Even when I'm not in the mood you can't control yourself. You can't stay up to save your own life. What do you want me to do? Take a picture and put it on my blog? Not gonna happen."

It was the first time that I visually remember having a short conversation with my penis. It was a short moment, but it was still a conversation. At that point, I began to think about the numerous men that does things like this. What do they say to it? How do they feel when they say it? Is it somewhat cocky or a form of self-confidence? If women can speak publicly about their breasts, why can't men do it as well with their partner?

What are the conversations you have with your partner below the belt?

Can The Aftermath Of Sex Be A Pain In The Butt?

One night, after pleasuring myself to some decent pornography, I couldn't help but think about the two people that were in the video. Sure, it looks good in the moment. They are giving each other awesome pleasure. They are rocking each others world, whether they are top or bottom. But once the video ended, one question occurred in my mind.

How do they feel and what do they do afterwards?

Based on personal experiences, I found the aftermath of sex to be a horrific process. First, you can hardly walk. The mid section of your body is slightly hurting from all of that sex. But that's the least of your worries. You have now wondering how you are going to get this person out of your house. Even though the individual is sleeping on the other side of the bed, you personally don't want him/her to be staying in your house. That's why you let the sex happen sometime before midnight.

After you finally managed to get the individual out of your house, you begin to get this weird feeling in your stomach, and have to rush to the bathroom. If you were drinking alcohol, you throw up. In other cases, you are sitting on the toilet, releasing the remains of whatever it was that was completely wrecked on the inside. Then you grab a bar of soap, cover two of your fingers with it, and slightly wash your insides.

After flushing your toilet, you move over to the sink and start brushing your teeth. You had your tongue and lips around many different parts of the body. Whether it's kissing the stomach and nipples, or sucking their front door, you've had your tongue and mouth all over the person's body. So you brush your teeth for a long time. Then you compliment the brushing with not one but two cups of Listerine.

Once you finish brushing your teeth you head over to the shower to turn the water on. You want to get rid of the smell of sex after your crazy session. You stay in the shower for quite a while and begin to reflect on that night. The good, the bad, and what fields you think you will be better at next time.

If you truly want to get rid of the smell, you remove the bed sheets, put it in the laundry, grab some new sheets, and then let out the Febreeze.

The first day is truly a pain in the butt. Once the second day arrives, you begin to get extra worried. You don't know where this person has been. People don't truly tell each other about their status. You begin to get slightly worried about the things you feel in your body, it provokes you to go the doctor and get yourself checked. You are making sure that everything about you is clean while the aftermath of sex is still fresh.

In life, we are careful about everything. Now that the world has these new sexually transmitted diseases, you become extra protective. Life is starting to be crazy thing with the new things you got to watch out for. Even though sex is a wonderful activity whether it passionate or a just a Monday morning workout session, I can't help but wonder.

Can the aftermath of sex be a pain the butt?

Can Tops and Bottoms Truly Be Friends?

Here in the 21st century of our world, everyone has chosen to be versatile. A large percentage of the LGBT community doesn't talk about their sexual positions. They don't talk about because they are comfortable doing both positions. But for some people, they don't want to tell people if they are a top or a bottom. It is all a secret until they get down in the bedroom and reveal who they really are.

As I get older and meet more new and interesting people, I couldn't help but notice something that has been secretly going on lately. On one end, there are a group of tops. Then on the other end, there are a group of bottoms. It was like a clique that was secretly created. They are not even worrying about being friends with the other positions. The last time they attempted to become friends they couldn't avoid the sexual chemistry and ended becoming a two night stand night on the same night.

Looking at that reminded of the movie When Harry Met Sally. Through Harry's perspective, men and women can't be friends without thinking about having sex first. But yet, he was friends with Sally, a woman throughout the entire movie. Of course, they ended up having sex with each other, but it mostly happened because the other one was feeling comfort for the other person. The majority of us accepted that incident because we all knew that Harry and Sally were meant to be together.

That incident was kind of a reflection of that movie. Just add a little LGBT sexual chemistry and you have the movie right there in front of you. When it comes to two men being together, they can't help but go forward with the special feeling they have lying dormant within them. They don't know the reason on how it was being triggered. Either they are incredibly horny or it's a feeling they have to go for because they never felt that way before. But is there ever a time when the tension can cool down and it will remain as a cool friendship?

When it comes to sex and life can tops and bottoms truly be friends?

MTV’s ‘Skins’ Parties in Reverse

By Bob Marshall

Despite recently having advertising from the likes of Subway, Schick, H&R Block, GM and Wrigley pulled over protest from the Parents Television Council, MTV’s “new” show about sexy teens having sex and doing drugs, Skins USA, is continuing on and even releasing new promo spots like the one above.

Hilariously enough, the US version of the show is reportedly less morally depraved than the British version of the show that has been airing on the BBC since January 2007. Are American parents just too sensitive about a show depicting actual teenage actors engaging in adult behavior that at times calls for nudity? Or, are accusations that the show could be considered child pornography spot on?

Regardless, the pilot’s high ratings mean MTV isn’t going to pull the plug on the series any time soon. Also, this can be seen as an opportunity for a new set of advertisers (Trojan Condoms, Four Loko, K-Y Jelly, Adderall) to embrace the show’s risque content and capitalize off of the controversy. Is the show a realistic portrayal of teenage life? Who cares. The promos from Post Millennium writer/director Evan Silver and editor Nathan Byrne make this fantastic drug-and-booze high school orgy set to Sleigh Bells’ “Kids” look like too much fun for MTV’s target demographic to ignore.

The full-length promo follows after the jump:

Zolra's Corner: The Hormal Pleasure

After pleasuring myself for the fourth time in one night, I began to pay attention to the LGBT community and their sex lives. When sexually transmitted diseases were spreading like wildfire in the last decade alone, we have to keep ourselves protective. I haven't been in a relationship since June 2009. So I haven't had sex in a while.

I am not the kind of person that goes to sex parties. I have nothing against sex parties, but I don't picture myself going to one. It's hard at times to not have sex, but I am handling it. One is food. I have a fast metabolism that is making me stay at 120 pounds. So I can eat 4 lemon cakes and still be 120 pounds.

Since I am discussing pleasure, I want to talk about sexual gay relationships. Ever since my blog Zolra's Weblog got that sex column on it, I cannot stop thinking about it. In the gay community, I can't help but notice that homosexual couples are having more sex than heterosexual couples. Every time I walk around an area that is mostly populated with gay people, one couple is either grabbing onto their mate's back sides or showing a lot of PDA.

I remember watching this lesbian couple on television. According to them, they lose weight by having lots of sex. As for men, it's pretty obvious that their having lots of sex. When two male hormones connect, you have a combustion. It's actions like this that makes me worry about future relationships. Lately, there are mostly hookups than dating. Meeting a man with commitment material appears to be harder than expected. After noticing these actions it got me thinking.

When it comes to same sex relationships, which one comes first. The relationship or the sex?

DNA Magazine Names the Sexiest Men ALIVE

DNA MAGAZINE ANNOUNCES THE SEXIEST MEN ALIVE ON OCT. 16TH IN THEIR NOVEMBER ISSUE!!!!

COMING SOON (OCTOBER 19, 2009) AN EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW WITH JR ROLLEY... NAMED BY DNA MAGAZINE ONE OF THE SEXIEST MEN ALIVE... HUGH JACKMAN AND DARRYL STEVENS WERE ALSO NAMED SEXIEST MEN ALIVE!

Coming soon...BOYPUSSY!

Dear Diary,

Everyday, we comb the streets draped in psuedo-masculine drag. Donned in designer labels showing off our swag. Lips barely part to acknowledge, on the city's bustling streets. Plotting our seduction hoping to prey beneath the sheets.

Our eyes meet uncertain of each others game. Never been taught to look eye to eye so we look away with shame. Stolen glances become temporary works of art. Lives intertwined yet worlds apart. Mirrored thoughts, filled with with relentless pain and voyeuristic lust. Digitizing our arousal with an eagerness to bust.

Hormones rage, as passwords and screen names become our entry into the underground. Faceless images hungry for attention, receive shameful disgrace. Our consciousness takes us to a site named after the man from whom we borrow our sins.

Exposed our naked stature. Asses and dicks, escorts, raw seekers and tranny chicks. Skinny boys, fat men, black and white. Dial-toned messages inviting uncharted perils into the night. A hot body to satiate the loneliness behind the blank stares into our screens. Who have we become? Who do we seem? Creatures of habit and hating from within. Stealing sips of rawness, skin to skin.

We know to protect ourselves, we have all seen the signs. To the education we are numb, we've lost our minds, but the cases, they seem so rare. One thing that's safe to say is: we just don't care.

BOYPUSSY