Saturday, January 23, 2010

Zolra's Corner: Accept Yourself While You're Still Young



Hello everyone. I'm sure everyone is aware of my absence last week. Don't worry, I'm not leaving my family. So can ya'll do me a favor and stop sending me emails about my absense. It's just one day. I'm not dead, nor getting a reality show. I spend my one week hiatus focusing on a serious topic that I wanted to put in my column. It's something that I feel is the right thing to do.

As I start to change a few thing on my blog, an idea struck my head like lightning. I am 18 years old, but work like a 25 year old. Most people are shocked at how my work ethic is. Not only that, but I am comfortable with who I am. If anyone asks me if I'm gay, I'm fine with that. I've got nothing to hide. You don't have to assume. Just ask me nicely.

Because of the fact that I am so young and becoming successful very swiftly, I feel like I have a responsibility for the younger audience in the LGBT community. Many people around my age are dealing with nonacceptance from family and friends. All this homophobia and criticism around them are starting to crush them like poison that can spread across the body in the blink of an eye.

For all the young ones out there, be comfortable with who you are. Only one person controls you're life and that's you. Take control and write your own story. Now that you're reaching adulthood, you are becoming 100% independent. At this time, focus on your life.

I love and accept who I am. No one forced me to be this. I have had feelings for guys since I was 2 years old. At times, I denied it. But as the years gone by, I realize this is who I am. When people see me doing what I've always wanted to do at 18 years of age, they imagine what I'll be like when I'm 25. Life is something. All we can do is accept it for what it is. A balance between positive and negative.

Surround yourself with people that are going to influence you to a better future. For me, it's great feeling to talk to people who i know is going to inspire me everyday. My friends Nathan "Seven" Scott and Dwight Allen O'Neal are one of the bests. I can speak and chat with them, knowing that I am not alone. I am not the only homosexual being on the planet. This is something that has been going on for years.

So for all the young ones that are still going through this, just know that we've been there. We've experienced it. We know what it feels like. Don't even think of yourself as an outside. Think of yourself as a human being just like everybody else.

I hope I spread a positive message. The young ones are the future.

1 comment:

  1. I am so proud of you. Baby boy you are next the generation and it is funny that this is coming from me, because people still look at me as that generation, because I march to the beat of my own drum and I have become this open proud gay black man. I am so glad that we have you in our family "The FUTURE" and I am so glad you are a positive role model that others after you can look up to. At 18 I was still scared to speak those words, I was not that strong until I was 22 and look at you doing it big at the age of 18!!!! Thats wassup you inspire me, just as I know you are inspiring so many others in the world... Love you Zolra... Dwight Allen O'Neal

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