Is Your Cousin Your Secret Gay Lover?

I can't tell you how many times I've heard this before. I don't think I'm the only person who's heard this thing. This one thing that's supposed to be a secret has become this thing that can turn into a popular Facebook topic if you want it to.

When it comes to the gay community, do you ever run into those two men that appear to be a little bit more closer than they say they are. One of those men say that the other one is his cousin. In the beginning, you kind of go with it. Then you pay attention to the way they are interacting with each other. If you are very observant over everything, you already know that something is not right. You've seen the way relatives are close to each other, and the way these two individuals are interacting with each other doesn't appear to be blood related.

Later on, you finally realize that these two are not related. They are actually a couple.

In the beginning, I thought this was going on with this one person I met, but I later found out it happens all the time. I remember one day working alongside with these two men for this event I was hosting. I volunteered my services in putting together the set days before I had to host the actual event. They needed an extra hand and there I was with nothing else to do.

The two men told everyone that they were cousins. I went ahead with what they told me they were. Then by the second day, I knew it was a lie. They thought they could pull one on me, but it didn't work at all. As an openly gay man, you can kind of tell when two men are a couple just by seeing how much time they spend with each other, and how they converse with one another. It brings out the gaydar and you can feel it just by standing next to them. Every gay person knows what I'm talking. Not only that, but I'm also a writer and writers are known for being very observant about everything. It's called "The Writer's Way of Thinking."

I went ahead with their little secret. Everyone knew the two of them were gay, but they didn't know they were dating. The whole process of them keeping their relationship a secret was incredibly hilarious. There are so many stories, if I wanted to, I could make this blog post a five part series. One day, we went out for lunch and they finally revealed to me that they were dating. I admitted to them that I already knew, but I chose not to tell them because I'm not one of those people that asks them the immediate question "Are you two lovers and not cousins?"

For me, I have no problem keeping a secret when it comes to relationships. If they want to keep their personal lives to themselves and they don't want to be public about their relationship, it's no problem with me. Until they want to tell me that they're dating, I don't say anything, neither do I provoke them to out their relationship to me. However, the whole journey is quite hilarious.

This is an example that I see with numerous couples. There are some couples that always refer to their lover as their cousin. Little do they know that the image they put on their mate has become incredibly known throughout the LGBT community? If you're going to keep your love life private, may I recommend you stop calling them your cousin? It's an instant giveaway.

Don't Judge It Until You Eat It

There is always a time in our lives when we would look at something and feel like turning the other way without thinking about trying whatever it is in the beginning. For some of us, we feel like we are over it. Then later on we realize that it is an ongoing battle that we have to face for a very long time. The only difference is that now it has become a moment instead of an ongoing lifestyle problem.

One day, I went over to visit my grandmother. I have an incredibly busy schedule that orginally took a toll on me visiting my grandmother before. She called me one time wondering why I haven't been visiting her because I used to visit her every weekend. But now, it hasn't become a problem and I now visit my grandmother every weekend.

She told me she made some stew if I would like to try some. She didn't even have to ask me. When my grandmother offers me her cooking, I am in the kitchen the next second. Everybody knows there is a current debate between your own mother and your grandmother's cooking. You be the judge.

I opened the pot and there I stumbled upon a stew I have never seen before. It was a combination of baked patatoes, mixed vegetables, ground meat, and spaghetti all together in one. I seriously wanted to burn all of it. I thought it was ugly and I thought it was going to be a disgusting dish. The good thing about me is that I am one of those people that loves trying new things. I am the experimental type. I like to keep my life fresh.

Even though I still had those tiny judgments about grandma's stew, I grabbed a plate and put some in microwave. I put it in my mouth and guess what? It was the most delicious stew I have ever had in my life. I felt so embarrassed that I dismissed the whole thing without willing to try.

This is something that I want everyone to do. Don't jump to conclusions and ignore a dish. Grab a plate and try it out. Who knows? It might be an amazing dish.