Thursday, June 28, 2012

Is The Best Friend Allowed To Date?

Everyone has that best friend in their life. It's that person that does everything for you? He/She is the first person you call at three o'clock in the morning. Shockingly, they will answer the phone. If you have a friend like that you are a lucky person.

They have been in your life for the longest. But the one thing I've noticed is that the best friend is hardly in a relationship due to the fact that they current relationship he/she deals with is the one with the best friend. Whenever the best friend gets out of a relationship, you are there to heal the wounds and telling them to move on. You treat your role as the best friend as if it is a career.

Of course it isn't a career, but you begin to think it is because you spend more time with them than you with your own life. Then it finally reaches a point when your life surrounds it completely. Once it's finally time for you to start dating it's very difficult.

After realizing this with not only others, but my own personal and professional life, it got me thinking.

Is the best friend allowed to date when their lives surrounds being the true companion?

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Mother Erma Johnson Needs Your VOTE!

VOTE Today 

to appear in an upcoming
Tyler Perry Film Production

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Arts.Advocacy+Wellness: "Brave Soul Collective... Returns"


Saturday June 30th, 2012

Brave Soul Collective (in conjunction with the 2012 DC Black Theatre Festival) presents,

"Moments Of Truth"

When: Saturday, June 30th 2012      
Where: Navy Memorial Theater, 701 Pennsylvania Avenue NW
Washington, DC 20004
Time:  9pm  /  Cost:  $15

Just months after our National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day performance which took place at Warehouse Theatre on February 7th, Brave Soul Collective (BSC) returns with an all new, full length performance of"Moments Of Truth: Healing Ourselves from the Inside Out" on Saturday June 30th at 9pm.
Through theatre, spoken word, and personal testimonials, BSC will entertain, educate and enlighten individuals about a host of topics & issues including love, relationships, sexuality, self esteem, body image, & mental health. The evening of artistic performances also as BSC's artistic contribution to the continued fight against HIV/AIDS. It is presented to help mobilize the African American community around HIV/AIDS education & awareness; reduce stigma and infection rates; and to reinforce the importance of assuming personal responsibility for individual choices that affect collective mental health and wellness.

The performance serves as BSC’s 3rd annual appearance at the DC Black Theater Festival, after presenting the production “Smoke Screens” - a highlight of last year's festival.
Tickets for this event are available now by visiting: & will also be available at the door, (while supplies last).

For more information about purchasing tickets, & special discounts for groups of 10 or more, For general info regarding this performance please visit: . FOR MATURE AUDIENCES ONLY

Missed the 1st performance of "Moments of Truth"?
purchase the LIMITED EDITION DVD recording of the show by clicking here:

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OR  Make a check payable to "Fractured Atlas" and mail to:   
Brave Soul Collective
PO Box 4034
Washington, DC 20044

Brave Soul Collective is a sponsored project of Fractured Atlas, a non-profit arts service organization. Contributions for the purposes of Brave Soul Collective may be made payable to Fractured Atlas and are tax-deductible to the extent permitted by law.

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Saturday, June 23, 2012

Flame – the Acceptable Face of Hip Hop

Hip hop has long been regarded as the unacceptable face of mainstream music, especially to middle America. With its promotion of gang culture, drugs, homophobia and perceived misogyny, hip hop is often sidelined, especially when it comes to awards and network TV exposure. However, one man is trying to change this with his unique brand of Christian hip hop: the self proclaimed Christian rapper, Flame.

Born Marcus T Gray, Flame (usually stylized as “FLAME”), comes from a Southern Baptist background, and originally started writing rap while practicing applied theology and Biblical counseling. His music, heavily influenced by his Baptist background and traditional gospel music, caught the attention of Cross Movement Records in 2004, who released his debut, self-titled album, Flame.

Since then, Flame has released three more albums, launched his own record label, and sold over 170,000 records. His music has even become an anthem for the St Louis Cardinals, and is played at the Busch Stadium whenever Albert Pujois comes to bat. Having infiltrated that most American of activities, baseball, Flame is fast becoming the acceptable face of hip hop, and is even being embraced by conservative, middle America.

Christian Hip hop
Christian hip hop is nothing new. Gospel rap can trace its origins back to the mid-eighties, when Stephen Wiley released his 1985 album, Bible Break (Benson Music Group). However, Christian hip hop never seemed to appeal to either the conservative mainstream or hip hop and rap fans, who still preferred the music of more antagonistic rappers who sang about gangs, drugs and guns.

Of course, many rap stars have come from quite religious backgrounds, an influence that can be heard in the music of Tupac, Jay-Z, DMX and Kanye West. However, while many of these hip hop acts may indeed be Christian, few brand themselves as such, and are not seen as part of the Christian hip hop movement. Whether this is because they fear alienating their more traditional and hardcore fan base, or they think the label “Christian” will somehow dent their image, isn’t clear.

What Flame has managed to do, which is unique amongst Christian hip hop acts, is appeal to both the hardcore hip hop fan and to mainstream America, many of whom are as far removed from the gang culture that forms the basis of most hip hop, as the average hip hop fan is from pressures of white collar America, such as settling credit card bills, paying the mortgage and moving finances about. However, Flame’s approach is all-encompassing, and he suggests the financial pressures of conservative America are no less worthy subjects to rap about than the street culture so typical of traditional hip hop.

In the south, where Flame has his roots, Christianity forms the back bone of all society, whether white, black, rich or poor. While Flame’s music is steeped in religion, he isn’t afraid to use the same course and aggressive approach to rap about more theological and anthropological subjects that many traditional hip hop stars use when rapping about guns, women, and drugs.

Flame believes hip hop, in whatever form, has enriched American culture, claiming it has provided an outlet for urban teens and young adults, many of whom feel ignored by mainstream culture.

“As hip hop evolved and began to take shape; it reflected more accurately the views of its founders. It would eventually become a conduit to raise awareness to the ills of society. Hot topics included police brutality, racism, classism [sic], and injustice. It was obvious that people were upset and angry with the current state of affairs. Many found hope in the awareness the Hip Hop culture began to raise,” he recently was reported as saying.

The 6th
He claims hip hop is the ideal conduit to express not just social and political messages, but also religious beliefs and ideologies, a tactic that has earned him nominations for a Grammy, Dove and Stellar award, and has seen his brand of Christian rap feature in the rap billboard, normally dominated by gang culture. His latest album, The 6th, was released on March 6 and has reached number 8 in the rap billboard chart. He describes this latest work – so called because God created mankind on the 6th day – as a study of society where he examines mankind from different angles. “Money, fame, power, women – nothing can ultimately satisfy you the way Christ can,” he said on the album’s release.

He says his goal is to use hip hop to give others hope and reach people from all areas of society, and if his recent billboard success is anything to go by, it is a goal he is very close to accomplishing.

By Imogen Reed

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Is Watching Pornography Considered Cheating?

One day, I decided to help out a friend of mine that is the executive director of a community center he runs. I never turn down helping a friend, especially when it's someone I've met since I was five years old. I was in charge of checking kids in and out at the front desk. That alone was my sugar rush.

Suddenly, another friend of mine happened to walk by. He is an exterminator that checks the place out once a month. This was my first time seeing him in months. Let's call him Henry.

After getting extremely excited over seeing each other, we decided to talk about what we were going through. I talked to him about my upcoming projects, which was a very long list at the time of the conversation. He ended up talking about his love life. I don't understand how I am to get that out of people. I never intended on being the person that anyone can talk to. I just happen to end in that position there because I am easy person to talk to, and I am a braniac with a capital B.

I told him these numerous stories that ended up in numerous questions. What I mean by that is every time we finished a sentence, it always ended up asking ourselves a question regarding our everyday lives. Because of my background work as a self-help guru, Henry couldn't help but to ask me something that he needed advice on.

"Can I ask you something?" he asked.

"Go right ahead," I responded.

"If you are watching porn, are you cheating on your spouse?"

All of sudden, everything just froze. It was like my clock of life was completely frozen. My mind was revolving around that entire question. Once everything didn't look frozen anymore I started giving him numerous different answers, so that I could avoid questioning myself at that moment.

Later that day, the question kept on popping in my mind. We are now at a point in our lives where everyone has porn in their house. Even though there are still some debates about the billion dollar industry, it is admittingly part of our everyday lives. There are some couples that play the tapes in order to give them an extra rush while there are some couples that considers it very offensive to have it on during their own sexual activities. But is there a time when you press play and starts watching yourself, you are mentally picturing yourself having sex with someone else and not with your significant other?

When it comes to relationships is watching pornography considered cheating?

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Arts.Advocacy+Wellness: "Feed Your Spirit..."

"Feed your soul, Your Spirit..."

My apologies for the late post today, but sometimes you just need to wait for a good prophetic word for inspiration. 

Feed your soul, Your Spirit, with music that supports your mood, finances, relationships.  Maybe its a song that gets you out of depression, worry over lack of finances, your unemployment has run out or you've been denied services.  Maybe it's a song or lyric that you need to chew on to bring you out of suffering, suffering from an abusive relationship with another person, with alcohol, or a chemical substance.  

Feed your Spirit, with medicine of music, lyric, and melody that detoxifies your system (physical and mental psyche).  What we listen to and put into our minds, our bodies is just as important as the real food and fluids we digest.  It's all connected to our physical and spiritual being working in tandem.  

A song that filled my belly today is James Fortune's "Still Able."  Find a song for you today.


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Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Tilt by George Faison at Souls of Our Feet: People of Color Dance Festival

By Walter Rutledge

The Thelma Hill Performing Arts Center began their 36 annual choreographic showcase on Sunday June 17. The three-day dance series, Souls of Our Feet: People of Color Dance Festival is being held at the Kumble Theater on the downtown Brooklyn campus of Long Island University. The series will present eight choreographers and dance companies spotlighting three works each night.

The opening night was a celebration of both the past and the future, offering works by emerging and established choreographers. Sidra Bell Dance New York presented an excerpt from Nudity entitled sink slowly, sink deep. Jonathan Campbell performed the extended solo with control and presence.

The simple costume of black short tights, a dark leotard and black socks combined with the colorless clear lights gave the work a stark, stripped down look. There was a surreal, almost monochromatic look and feel about the work that created an inner tension in Campbell. The floor mounted white lights placed in front of the stage intensified the imagery by producing a shadow of the dancer on the colorless backdrop.

The movement shifted between expansive jumps, extensions and battlements, to center generated upper body isolations. Arm and hand gestures, and exaggerated facial expressions completed the eerie feeling. These were repeated and varied throughout the work creating a gestural language with the audience.

The Philadelphia based modern dance company Danse4Nia presented an excerpt from Hollie E. Wrights’ Standing In My Skin. The female trio consisting of began the dance dressed in beige belted trench coats. As the dance developed the belt was removed, then one sleeve. The partially removed trench coat at one point moved around the performers like a cape.

The work revealed different levels of trust and solidarity between the performers. The dancers would break unison passages with one dancer usually forming the apex of a triangle as if she was telling her story. There were supported movements in which the dancers shared and shifted each others weight. These supportive moments were not quite lifts, but gave the appearance of bonding and a collective and shared angst.

In the final section choreographer Wright was able to create a peaceful and pleasant resolution. The movement and presentation had an affirming quality, and there was a clear sisterhood. The work ended with the dancers throwing the trench coats downstage in an overt act of defiance.

The evening closed with a new incarnation of Tilt by Tony and Emmy Award winning choreographer George Faison. This new rendition on Faison’s 1973 classic dance theatre work featured new costumes, projections and an expanded cast. What is most gratifying is that the thirty-nine year old ballet has retained a freshness and vibrancy that has kept it current.

Faison has amalgamated ballet, modern, jazz and popular dance and set it to a great music score of songs by the Jackson 5, Labelle and Ashford and Simpson. The result is a fast paced, high energy, and visually stimulating work. The colorful and futuristic video projections of a pinball machine integrated into the story perfectly, and complement the neon wigs and florescent colored costumes on the women.

Tilt’s outer premise is a pinball game featuring three women performed by Chloe’ O. Davis, Paunika Jones and Hollie E. Wright. The underlining story is about love, heartbreak, inner strength, and unity. This was accomplished through a series of female solos and group dances.

Three male dancers Justin S.M. Bryant, Nijawwon Matthews, and Devin L. Roberts have replaced the set, which consisted of three pinball bumpers. This addition extended the male dance roles, which originally was confined to a few brief non-dance passages in the opening and closing sections.

In many respects Tilt was the most youthful work on the program. This is due in part to the playful and unpretenous nature of the work, coupled with strong choreography and compositional structure. Tilt will be performed again on the closing day of the festival on Wednesday June 20.

The Thelma Hill Performing Arts Center’s Souls of Our Feet: People of Color Dance Festival continues on Tuesday June 19. Dance Sons of Brooklyn will present works by three emerging male Brooklyn based choreographers Germaul Barnes, Jamal Jackson and Malcolm Low.  The Wednesday June 20 performance will feature DANCE IQUAL, Francesca Harper Project, and a reprise of George Faison’s Tilt, both performance are at 7:30pm. Tickets are $15 and $12 for students and seniors, and may be purchased at the Kumble Theater box office, 718-488-1624, and online at

In Photo: 1) Devin L. Roberts, Justin S.M. Bryant, Nijawwon Matthews, Paunika Jones and Hollie E. Wright 2) Jonathan Campbell 3) Cindy Logan, Jamey L. Rislin, and Blythe Smith 4) George Faison and Tilt cast 5) Devin L. Paunika Jones, Roberts, Justin S.M. Bryant, and Nijawwon Matthews,

Photo Credit: 1- 4) Agnes E. Green 5) Rodney Hurley

O.W.W! Operation Wendy Williams

Monday, June 18, 2012

Pillow Talk with Marck Angel

Singer Marck Angel joins Lonnell in bed for a very candid conversation on music, relationships, cheating, sex parties, travel, family, adoption, gay marriage and so much more! 

About Marck:

In 2008, Marck Angel officially crashed onto the ever-growing underground/internet music scene via, then social media juggernaut, MySpace. Riding the wave of this popular media platform, Marck entered the playing field with a refreshing sound and a provocative image; he decisively led off with his smash internet single “Game”. The melancholy strings and staccato drum driven track was penned and produced by Marck himself, with co-production credited to his long-time friend and production collaborator, Jose “Joey2Tone” Batista. Marck juxtaposed the ubiquitous internet single with his first music video, “Game. The Video.” The clip was hailed by many music industry execs as “MySpace’s video of the year”, and received tens of thousands of views, highly due to its suggestive choreography and simple, yet creative cinematography.

Climbing off the song and video’s critical and popular success, and following up with a promotional leak of his second popular single, “Love Lesson 101” (also written by Marck and produced by Batista), Marck embarked on touring and promotion by performing across the country, headlining several music events (OUTMusic Awards MixtapeLIVE Concert, and NYC, Atlanta & DC Prides), interviewing and receiving heavy spin rotations on major web radio shows (DaDoo-Dirty Show and BetterDaysRadio), appearing on TV Shows (Late Night with DJ Baker and GloTV), featuring on popular blogs (The Skorpion Show, TheFutureForward, ADTV and 3LWTV) and appearing in magazines (SGL Weekly Magazine, Metro Weekly and Pride TV)… just to name a few.

Most recently, in 2010, Marck released a promotional single entitled, “Go Baby Go”. The self written and produced single instantly burned up the internet and social media forums with over 5000 downloads within its first week of release. He then smartly, followed up with the release of its highly anticipated, hip-hop edged remix, “Go Baby Go (Remix)”, which featured uber-rising rap stars Bry’Nt and Kaoz - released on iTunes and several other digital distribution outlets (including CDBaby, Amazon and LastFm). The single went on to earn Marck an OUTMusic Award Nomination for Outstanding R&B Song.

Thursday, June 14, 2012

Does Anyone Get Over High School?

I am currently reading a novel entitled "Best Friends Forever" by Jennifer Weiner. It took only the summary of the novel for me to get interested in this story. I can relate to this thing easily.

In this novel, it talk about the lives of two girls who has been best friends since they were nine years old. Then come to their teenage years. Betrayal kicks in. In the midst of it all, one of them became the outcast while the other one is swept away into the popular crowd. So in this novel, you get to see what was the became the end of their friendship, and how they each changed fifteen years later, around the time of their high school reunion.

The second I started reading it got me thinking about everyday life. We can be the most successful people in the world. We can have billions of dollars with millions of people adoring us because of our creativity. But in the core of it all, we will never forget that we used to be the outcast. No one cared about us at the time. No one didn't care about our creativity.

Then once you become successful those same people that once rejected you from high school are now spending over $300 of their money just to spend some time with you in the VIP section. It's like they never knew they used to pick on you. They have smiles on their face, spending time with you because they either like you as a person, or like you because you are rich.

Once you walk out of that high school door for the last time, you are more excited than you have ever been. However, you will never forget what the school has done to you. It's like high school left you an invisible scar on your back and you will never get it off.

When it comes to life does anyone get over high school?

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Gallatin:LA – Alumni producing Alumni at the Hollywood Fringe 2012

Gallatin:LA – Alumni producing Alumni at the Hollywood Fringe 2012

When: June 17th, 4:30-6:40pm
Where: Theatre Asylum, 6320 Santa Monica Blvd, Los Angeles CA, 90038
How: Tickets are free, to reserve visit
The Gallatin: LA event for the Hollywood Fringe Festival is a program focused on Alumni from the Gallatin School of Individualized Study at New York University producing for fellow Alumni, mainly located in the Los Angeles area. The event is June 17th from 4:30pm to 6:30pm at Theater Asylum on Santa Monica Blvd., right in the heart of Hollywood, CA and in the hub of the Fringe! It is an evening of short theatrical pieces, live music, solo pieces and film by NYU-Gallatin Alumni in Los Angeles, followed by an fun and interactive meet-and-great party. Gallatin:LA is a regional alumni group of New York University and the event is produced and curated by Matthew Quinn and Nicole J. Adelman, both of whom are on the Gallatin: LA Board.
Work by the following artists will be shown:
Cornelius Jones Jr.s’, “PUMP-PLIE-JUMP” 
Kristen Kittel’s – TBD
Yvette Edery’s short film, “Jillian Dillon”
Olivia Rhee’s short solo piece and film, “Singing Acupuncturist”
Nicole J. Adelman’s avante-garde short film, “A Short Spring”
Lauren Rutlin’s one-man show, “Limp”
Yvonne Farrow’s one-woman show, “White House Wives: Operation Lysistrata”
Rita Colimon’s short film, “Mouthbreather”
Julius Galecki’s short piece, “The Haunted World” and short film “First Night”
Horam Kim’s short film, Is Anybody Out There
Rosalie Kaplan’s music group, “dollshot”
The Gallatin School of Individualized Study, a small, experimental college within New York University, gives students the opportunity to design a program of study tailored to their needs and interests. When students choose Gallatin, they take on the exciting challenge of creating their own curriculum and unique plan for learning. They pursue their individual interests from a personal perspective by taking courses in the various schools of New York University, engaging in self-directed education through independent studies and participating in experiential learning through internships at New York City’s countless institutions, businesses and arts organizations
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QUIET THE CHATTER: PT. 1, the physical

Quiet the chatter today.  Take a moment, find a still place and just breath.  If sitting does not help,  stand in a comfortable position; Feet hip width apart, arms by your side, ground down and feel the four corners of your feet, press your toes into the earth, close your eyes.  Think of a song, that is soothing for your ears and has soothing words or again, simply listen to your breath.

Allow yourself at least 3-5 minutes each day to quiet the chatter.  We face chatter and chaos every day as we leave our home and enter into the land of the living.  Sometimes the chatter and chaos happens in before leaving our home, like an early morning phone call or a text.  Challenge yourself to avoid the call or text, for at least 3 minutes. I'm sure if it is urgent, 3 minutes, won't make or break the situation.  If you don't have a private room in your home, try escaping to your bathroom.  The bathroom is naturally a quiet place for all.
The last few days have been a whirlwind of emotions.  Exciting, mixed and low.  I am here and I am breathing.

Hope this helps.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Blair Underwood & Nicole Ari Parker in A STREETCAR NAMED DESIRE on Broadway

This season, desire is taking on a whole new rhythm as the greatest play 
from America’s most celebrated playwright sizzles onto
the stage at The Broadhurst Theatre.

From the producers of the trailblazing 2008 Broadway production of
Cat On A Hot Tin Roof, starring James Earl Jones and Terrence Howard,
comes a hot new take on Tennessee Williams’ Pulitzer Prize-winning masterpiece,
A Streetcar Named Desire
. Leading this sizzling new cast is
Blair Underwood (L.A. Law) in his Broadway debut as Stanley Kowalski,
Nicole Ari Parker (Soul Food) as Blanche DuBois, Daphne Rubin-Vega (Rent)
as Stella Kowalski and Wood Harris (The Wire) as Mitch. Directed by Emily Mann
(Artistic Director of Princeton’s esteemed McCarter Theatre) and featuring an
original score by five-time Grammy Award® winner Terence Blanchard,
this scintillating Streetcar brings a whole new rhythm to Williams’
enduring portrait of sex, class and secrets in one of America’s
most fascinating and diverse cities.

Come and feel the heat.

 Broadhurst Theatre, 235 West 44th Street, NYC.

Performance Schedule
Tues 7pm, Wed 2 & 8pm, Thurs 7pm, Fri 8pm,
Sat 2 & 8pm, Sun 3pm

Week ending July 8: Mon 7pm, Tues 7pm, Wed-Dark-July 4th,
Thurs 7pm, Fri 8pm, Sat 2 & 8pm
Sun 2 & 8pm

Front Orchestra & Front Mezzanine $79.50 to $89.50*

Rear Orchestra & Middle Mezzanine $69.50*

Rear Mezzanine $49.50*

*Offer valid on select performances and seat locations. Restrictions may apply.

mention code: ASFLY79
or call 212 947-8844

For groups pf 10 or more,
call Toni, 718 703-2260

Thelma Hill Performing Arts Center Presents 35th Annual Showcase in Brooklyn

By Walter Rutledge

The Thelma Hill Performing Arts Center (THPAC) will present their annual choreographers showcase entitled Souls
of Our Feet: People of Color Dance Festival at the Kumble Theater located on the downtown Brooklyn campus of Long Island University. The three-day event will take on Sunday June 17, Tuesday June 19 and Wednesday June 20. The Sunday June 17 opening performance is at 7pm, the June 19 and 20 performances begin at 7:30 pm.

The showcase will highlight the work of seven new, emerging and established choreographers and dance companies. The artists/companies to be presented are Germaul Barnes/Viewsic Expressions Dance, Sidra Bell Dance, DANCE IQUAIL, Danse4Nia, Francesca Harper Project, Jamal Jackson Malcolm Low, and Tony and Emmy Award winner George Faison. This varied and diverse group will offer a program ranging from dance/theatre to abstract narratives.

In Photo: Rachel Neville and Iquail Shaheed Photo Credit: Joseph “Nana” Sargent

This season marks the thirty-six year of arts presenting by THPAC. Larry Phillips founded the organization in 1976 to offer performance opportunities for underserved artists of color. The organization has provided a nurturing environment and much need visibility to many emerging and established artists and companies. Alvin Aley American Dance Theater, Ailey II, Dance Theatre of Harlem, Philadanco, Ronald K. Brown and Evidence, Complexions Contemporary Ballet, George Faison, Louis Johnson, Rod Rogers, and Forces of Nature are but a few of the many artists presented by the Thelma Hill Performing Arts Center.

Under the direction of Executive Director Alex Smith, Jr. the organization continues its commitment to showcase the next generation of artist and companies. THPAC also prides itself on preserving and educating the public by presenting important/ timeless masterworks by established choreographers. In additions to this series THPAC will present three more events including two PEEKS performances, which presents works in progress and a restaging of the 2010 production Ramp To Paradise. What Is, the work being presented by the Francesca Harper Project in the Souls of Our Feet series was presented as a work in progress at last year at PEEKS.

The organization accomplishes this on an ever-increasingly meager budget; literally taking the financial equivalent of three fish and five loaves and somehow each year feeds the “multitude” of dance enthusiasts. This is the season of our discontent. It is at both the best of times and worst of times. The arts, and dance in particular find themselves under great financial strains due to scarce and dwindling funding outlets. But THPAC, which has weathered many a storm, has mined the dance community for the best of the best once again to bring to the stage and to our audiences. We just keep going!” says Alex Smith, Jr.

Tickets are now on sale of the Thelma Hill Performing Arts Center’s Souls Of Our Feet. Tickets can be purchased Tickets at the Kumble Theater box office, 718-488-1624, and online at Special ticket sale price of $10 before June 17.

Thursday, June 7, 2012

Never Settle For A Good Enough Relationship

One of the lessons I've learned from being single for a year is that I never have to settle for a good enough relationship. You know what I'm talking about when I say good enough relationships.

When it comes to being with someone most people are scared to be alone. Some are extremely dependent on being in a relationship. They don't want to live the single life for too long. They really want to be with someone. Due to that, they settle for a good enough relationship. It's a relationship where you know it's not going anywhere, but you choose to stay in it because you don't want to be by yourself.

It's actually much worse than a dysfunctional relationship.

For a dysfunctional relationship, there are everyday problems that will surprise you all the time. However, you will do your best to compromise on a daily basis. A good enough relationship is a relationship that is obviously going nowhere, but you decide to accept it. You've accepted the fact you will never be accepted completely by the other person and vice versa. You've accepted that things are never going to change. You've accepted that you are going to be completely happy.

I remember being absolutely dependent on relationships during my teenage years. I was looking for love because I wasn't getting it from my friends or family. This one particular guy I dated was my obvious guy. He was into the performing arts. He loved sex as much as I do. He never wanted to leave me. I never wanted to leave him.

However, it was never good from the beginning. We were living in different worlds. I was the boy next door who was too focused on work and not partying with a group of people. He was a bad boy who cared less about work and wanted to just party all the time. When it came to the arts, he would leave his talents out the window and just waist it on the party lifestyle. We've had numerous arguments, which led to break ups and make ups for three whole years. It was completely difficult to deal with on an emotional level.

Then one night, I remember us sitting outside on the balcony at a gay bar. We cuddled with my head on his heart and he said "It's very obvious, don't you think? It's obvious that we are not a good match. You're good enough for me. I'm good enough for you. But we will never be complete as a couple because we are never meant to be a couple. So why not we stay in this relationship, knowing that we will never be truly happy? Be a good enough person for each other."

Obviously, you would walk away from it. However, I was so afraid of being alone, I stayed with him for a couple of more months. Admittingly, we were never happy. I dealt with the fights and arguments. I dealt with the fact that there was never going to be a happy future. It was an ultimate good enough relationship between two teenagers.

Our relationship ended when he left the state and didn't tell me that he left or where he was going. In the beginning, I was incredibly sad. Now that I look back, I'm glad it happened. It was a sign telling me that I didn't have to settle for a good enough relationship. Not only was I was going to be happy as a single man, but when I do get into another relationship, the two of us were going to accept and love one another completely, and never be each other's good enough.

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Arts.Advocacy+Wellness: "Peace & Surrender"


Bonjour friends,

I've made it to Paris safe and sound. Taking in the sights and sounds (literally as I type I'm enjoying the chipper voices of young lads playing catch on the street corner.)  Play,  what we did a lot when we were younger, like there was no tomorrow.  Playing in peace and surrendering to the moment, contentment.  

I received a word very prolific, motivating, and wise in meditation on Sunday at Kadampa 
Meditation Center in Silverlake. It went something like this:  "If something can be remedied, why be unhappy with it.  If something can't be remedied, still why be unhappy."  I can use this to assess many situations in my life. I hope it can offer you peace in your surrendering.  Find the joy and go play in peace, just like the kids I'm hearing on the street corner.   

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

SKINNY the movie Premieres in NYC this weekend


The highly anticipated NYC premiere of THE SKINNY, the third feature film from Patrik-Ian Polk (PUNKS, NOAH’S ARC) will be presented during the First Annual Pride Cultural Series at the Faison Firehouse Theater, 6 Hancock Place, Harlem, NY 10027 opening Friday, June 8th with proceeds benefiting GMAD’s (Gay Men of African Decent) Charles Angel Youth Leadership Academy's 'Stop the BS' campaign- an anti gay-bullying and suicide initiative.

A sharply scripted comedy, THE SKINNY tells the story of four young, black, gay men (Magnus, Sebastian, Kyle, Joey) and their lesbian best friend (Langston), who meet up in New York City one year after their graduation from Brown University. Their plans for a weekend of fun start off well, relaxed in each other’s company as only old friends can be. But old tensions quickly resurface.

Drinking, drugs, hidden desire and the demands of promiscuity put friendship, trust and even lives at risk. In between sharp one-liners and a great soundtrack there’s a few important lessons that these pleasure-seekers must learn for themselves. Written with a real sense of the demands of urban living, these bright and believable characters will remind you of someone you know. Remaining true to his past work, Polk addresses issues in THE SKINNY that face the LGBT community such as date-rape, infidelity, and HIV/AIDS awareness.

The film stars Jussie Smollett (the former child actor of “Mighty Ducks” & “North”, and older brother of well-known actress Jurnee Smollett), Blake Young-Fountain, Anthony Burrell, Shanika Warren-Markland and Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman. Supporting cast includes alumnus of Polk’s past features such as Darryl Stephens (“Noah’s Arc”), Jennia Fredrique (“Noah’s Arc”), Wilson Cruz (“Noah’s Arc”) and Seth Gilliam (“Punks”, “The Wire”, “Oz”, “Teen Wolf”). The cast also includes newcomers Dustin Ross and internet sensation B. Scott.

THE SKINNY’s open-ended NYC run begins Friday, June 8th at the Faison Firehouse Theatre in Harlem (6 Hancock Place, New York, NY 10027) as the featured film of the Firehouse's First Annual Pride Cultural Series.
OPENING WEEKEND's Showtime: 3:30pm | 5:30pm | 7:30pm & 9:30pm
Tickets $15.00 purchased in advance online at
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