Thursday, June 28, 2012
They have been in your life for the longest. But the one thing I've noticed is that the best friend is hardly in a relationship due to the fact that they current relationship he/she deals with is the one with the best friend. Whenever the best friend gets out of a relationship, you are there to heal the wounds and telling them to move on. You treat your role as the best friend as if it is a career.
Of course it isn't a career, but you begin to think it is because you spend more time with them than you with your own life. Then it finally reaches a point when your life surrounds it completely. Once it's finally time for you to start dating it's very difficult.
After realizing this with not only others, but my own personal and professional life, it got me thinking.
Is the best friend allowed to date when their lives surrounds being the true companion?
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
THIS SATURDAY is when BSC RETURNS!!!
Saturday June 30th, 2012
Brave Soul Collective (in conjunction with the 2012 DC Black Theatre Festival) presents,
Saturday, June 23, 2012
By Imogen Reed
Thursday, June 21, 2012
Suddenly, another friend of mine happened to walk by. He is an exterminator that checks the place out once a month. This was my first time seeing him in months. Let's call him Henry.
After getting extremely excited over seeing each other, we decided to talk about what we were going through. I talked to him about my upcoming projects, which was a very long list at the time of the conversation. He ended up talking about his love life. I don't understand how I am to get that out of people. I never intended on being the person that anyone can talk to. I just happen to end in that position there because I am easy person to talk to, and I am a braniac with a capital B.
I told him these numerous stories that ended up in numerous questions. What I mean by that is every time we finished a sentence, it always ended up asking ourselves a question regarding our everyday lives. Because of my background work as a self-help guru, Henry couldn't help but to ask me something that he needed advice on.
"Can I ask you something?" he asked.
"Go right ahead," I responded.
"If you are watching porn, are you cheating on your spouse?"
All of sudden, everything just froze. It was like my clock of life was completely frozen. My mind was revolving around that entire question. Once everything didn't look frozen anymore I started giving him numerous different answers, so that I could avoid questioning myself at that moment.
Later that day, the question kept on popping in my mind. We are now at a point in our lives where everyone has porn in their house. Even though there are still some debates about the billion dollar industry, it is admittingly part of our everyday lives. There are some couples that play the tapes in order to give them an extra rush while there are some couples that considers it very offensive to have it on during their own sexual activities. But is there a time when you press play and starts watching yourself, you are mentally picturing yourself having sex with someone else and not with your significant other?
When it comes to relationships is watching pornography considered cheating?
Wednesday, June 20, 2012
My apologies for the late post today, but sometimes you just need to wait for a good prophetic word for inspiration.
Feed your soul, Your Spirit, with music that supports your mood, finances, relationships. Maybe its a song that gets you out of depression, worry over lack of finances, your unemployment has run out or you've been denied services. Maybe it's a song or lyric that you need to chew on to bring you out of suffering, suffering from an abusive relationship with another person, with alcohol, or a chemical substance.
Feed your Spirit, with medicine of music, lyric, and melody that detoxifies your system (physical and mental psyche). What we listen to and put into our minds, our bodies is just as important as the real food and fluids we digest. It's all connected to our physical and spiritual being working in tandem.
A song that filled my belly today is James Fortune's "Still Able." Find a song for you today.
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Tuesday, June 19, 2012
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Thursday, June 14, 2012
In this novel, it talk about the lives of two girls who has been best friends since they were nine years old. Then come to their teenage years. Betrayal kicks in. In the midst of it all, one of them became the outcast while the other one is swept away into the popular crowd. So in this novel, you get to see what was the became the end of their friendship, and how they each changed fifteen years later, around the time of their high school reunion.
The second I started reading it got me thinking about everyday life. We can be the most successful people in the world. We can have billions of dollars with millions of people adoring us because of our creativity. But in the core of it all, we will never forget that we used to be the outcast. No one cared about us at the time. No one didn't care about our creativity.
Then once you become successful those same people that once rejected you from high school are now spending over $300 of their money just to spend some time with you in the VIP section. It's like they never knew they used to pick on you. They have smiles on their face, spending time with you because they either like you as a person, or like you because you are rich.
Once you walk out of that high school door for the last time, you are more excited than you have ever been. However, you will never forget what the school has done to you. It's like high school left you an invisible scar on your back and you will never get it off.
When it comes to life does anyone get over high school?
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
Where: Theatre Asylum, 6320 Santa Monica Blvd, Los Angeles CA, 90038
How: Tickets are free, to reserve visit http://www.hollywoodfringe.org/projects/877
Kristen Kittel’s – TBD
Yvette Edery’s short film, “Jillian Dillon”
Olivia Rhee’s short solo piece and film, “Singing Acupuncturist”
Nicole J. Adelman’s avante-garde short film, “A Short Spring”
Lauren Rutlin’s one-man show, “Limp”
Yvonne Farrow’s one-woman show, “White House Wives: Operation Lysistrata”
Rita Colimon’s short film, “Mouthbreather”
Julius Galecki’s short piece, “The Haunted World” and short film “First Night”
Horam Kim’s short film, Is Anybody Out There
Rosalie Kaplan’s music group, “dollshot”
Matthew Quinn – email@example.com
Allow yourself at least 3-5 minutes each day to quiet the chatter. We face chatter and chaos every day as we leave our home and enter into the land of the living. Sometimes the chatter and chaos happens in before leaving our home, like an early morning phone call or a text. Challenge yourself to avoid the call or text, for at least 3 minutes. I'm sure if it is urgent, 3 minutes, won't make or break the situation. If you don't have a private room in your home, try escaping to your bathroom. The bathroom is naturally a quiet place for all.
The last few days have been a whirlwind of emotions. Exciting, mixed and low. I am here and I am breathing.
Hope this helps.
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
The Thelma Hill Performing Arts Center (THPAC) will present their annual choreographers showcase entitled Souls of Our Feet: People of Color Dance Festival at the Kumble Theater located on the downtown Brooklyn campus of Long Island University. The three-day event will take on Sunday June 17, Tuesday June 19 and Wednesday June 20. The Sunday June 17 opening performance is at 7pm, the June 19 and 20 performances begin at 7:30 pm.
The showcase will highlight the work of seven new, emerging and established choreographers and dance companies. The artists/companies to be presented are Germaul Barnes/Viewsic Expressions Dance, Sidra Bell Dance, DANCE IQUAIL, Danse4Nia, Francesca Harper Project, Jamal Jackson Malcolm Low, and Tony and Emmy Award winner George Faison. This varied and diverse group will offer a program ranging from dance/theatre to abstract narratives.
In Photo: Rachel Neville and Iquail Shaheed Photo Credit: Joseph “Nana” Sargent
This season marks the thirty-six year of arts presenting by THPAC. Larry Phillips founded the organization in 1976 to offer performance opportunities for underserved artists of color. The organization has provided a nurturing environment and much need visibility to many emerging and established artists and companies. Alvin Aley American Dance Theater, Ailey II, Dance Theatre of Harlem, Philadanco, Ronald K. Brown and Evidence, Complexions Contemporary Ballet, George Faison, Louis Johnson, Rod Rogers, and Forces of Nature are but a few of the many artists presented by the Thelma Hill Performing Arts Center.
Under the direction of Executive Director Alex Smith, Jr. the organization continues its commitment to showcase the next generation of artist and companies. THPAC also prides itself on preserving and educating the public by presenting important/ timeless masterworks by established choreographers. In additions to this series THPAC will present three more events including two PEEKS performances, which presents works in progress and a restaging of the 2010 production Ramp To Paradise. What Is, the work being presented by the Francesca Harper Project in the Souls of Our Feet series was presented as a work in progress at last year at PEEKS.
The organization accomplishes this on an ever-increasingly meager budget; literally taking the financial equivalent of three fish and five loaves and somehow each year feeds the “multitude” of dance enthusiasts. “This is the season of our discontent. It is at both the best of times and worst of times. The arts, and dance in particular find themselves under great financial strains due to scarce and dwindling funding outlets. But THPAC, which has weathered many a storm, has mined the dance community for the best of the best once again to bring to the stage and to our audiences. We just keep going!” says Alex Smith, Jr.
Tickets are now on sale of the Thelma Hill Performing Arts Center’s Souls Of Our Feet. Tickets can be purchased Tickets at the Kumble Theater box office, 718-488-1624, and online at www.kumbletheater.org. Special ticket sale price of $10 before June 17.
Thursday, June 7, 2012
One of the lessons I've learned from being single for a year is that I never have to settle for a good enough relationship. You know what I'm talking about when I say good enough relationships.
When it comes to being with someone most people are scared to be alone. Some are extremely dependent on being in a relationship. They don't want to live the single life for too long. They really want to be with someone. Due to that, they settle for a good enough relationship. It's a relationship where you know it's not going anywhere, but you choose to stay in it because you don't want to be by yourself.
It's actually much worse than a dysfunctional relationship.
For a dysfunctional relationship, there are everyday problems that will surprise you all the time. However, you will do your best to compromise on a daily basis. A good enough relationship is a relationship that is obviously going nowhere, but you decide to accept it. You've accepted the fact you will never be accepted completely by the other person and vice versa. You've accepted that things are never going to change. You've accepted that you are going to be completely happy.
I remember being absolutely dependent on relationships during my teenage years. I was looking for love because I wasn't getting it from my friends or family. This one particular guy I dated was my obvious guy. He was into the performing arts. He loved sex as much as I do. He never wanted to leave me. I never wanted to leave him.
However, it was never good from the beginning. We were living in different worlds. I was the boy next door who was too focused on work and not partying with a group of people. He was a bad boy who cared less about work and wanted to just party all the time. When it came to the arts, he would leave his talents out the window and just waist it on the party lifestyle. We've had numerous arguments, which led to break ups and make ups for three whole years. It was completely difficult to deal with on an emotional level.
Then one night, I remember us sitting outside on the balcony at a gay bar. We cuddled with my head on his heart and he said "It's very obvious, don't you think? It's obvious that we are not a good match. You're good enough for me. I'm good enough for you. But we will never be complete as a couple because we are never meant to be a couple. So why not we stay in this relationship, knowing that we will never be truly happy? Be a good enough person for each other."
Obviously, you would walk away from it. However, I was so afraid of being alone, I stayed with him for a couple of more months. Admittingly, we were never happy. I dealt with the fights and arguments. I dealt with the fact that there was never going to be a happy future. It was an ultimate good enough relationship between two teenagers.
Our relationship ended when he left the state and didn't tell me that he left or where he was going. In the beginning, I was incredibly sad. Now that I look back, I'm glad it happened. It was a sign telling me that I didn't have to settle for a good enough relationship. Not only was I was going to be happy as a single man, but when I do get into another relationship, the two of us were going to accept and love one another completely, and never be each other's good enough.
Wednesday, June 6, 2012
I've made it to Paris safe and sound. Taking in the sights and sounds (literally as I type I'm enjoying the chipper voices of young lads playing catch on the street corner.) Play, what we did a lot when we were younger, like there was no tomorrow. Playing in peace and surrendering to the moment, contentment.
I received a word very prolific, motivating, and wise in meditation on Sunday at Kadampa
Meditation Center in Silverlake. It went something like this: "If something can be remedied, why be unhappy with it. If something can't be remedied, still why be unhappy." I can use this to assess many situations in my life. I hope it can offer you peace in your surrendering. Find the joy and go play in peace, just like the kids I'm hearing on the street corner.
Tuesday, June 5, 2012
A sharply scripted comedy, THE SKINNY tells the story of four young, black, gay men (Magnus, Sebastian, Kyle, Joey) and their lesbian best friend (Langston), who meet up in New York City one year after their graduation from Brown University. Their plans for a weekend of fun start off well, relaxed in each other’s company as only old friends can be. But old tensions quickly resurface.